It Isn’t Easy

If anyone ever told you it would be easy, they lied…

A few weeks ago I to signed up for a volleyball tournament. I thought, “what the hell right. It’s just for fun.” so I signed up as an individual and would be set on a team with other individuals.

I should have known it was gonna be a rough day when Lady Gaga is playing at 9am. One of the risks signing up as an individual is when your put on a team with people who practice with the national team and people in the most competitive league(I’m in the least competitive).

To put it simply, I sucked. When I wasn’t serving the ball way into the next court I was usually missing my shots. My team won only one game through the tournament.

On my Volleyball team I play with on a regular I’m the worst guy player. The first week I wasn’t too bad, now a bunch of new guys joined and I’m back to the bottom.

If you took me from pre-Christmas I would have probably left that tournament and my team feeling super shitty and probably never played again. “Fuck this stupid game. I suck and was probably the worst player out there. Peace out!”

Not now. After starting Salsa dancing I learned something very important. “it’s gonna suck a long time. You have to push through the sucky part to get to the good part. “Most people quit right when things get hard and right before things get good.”
That’s what I was told before I started. And by the time I reached the end of my second set of classes I was the only student left in the class. Now I’m in a new class and I’m back to being the worst student in the place.

“90% of being good at anything is just showing up.” some are gifted but some nothing is special about them they’ve just worked harder then everyone else and stuck with it when everyone else didn’t.

What most people don’t realize is how important the mental shift is. I’m not really bothered by most people, or how they have big plans. I know 95% of people are too lazy or aren’t committed enough to follow through. Most are gonna quit and drop out.

I have friends who have great ideas that could be quite powerful and make them really happy in life. But unless they make big chances they’ll never go anywhere with those ideas. what a loss.

This change in thought also changes Game. Win, lose or fail what counts is you showed up and tried. Don’t make doing or trying something contingent on the outcome. If you want to do something just do it. It doesn’t matter what happens after that because you tried.

I may suck at getting chicks. I’ve have been stood up and flaked on by the last 15 girls I’ve asked out. But I can’t quit now. Roosh says it takes about 4 years of sucking at something and about 8 to 10 years before your good at something. I’m at the bottom of my sports team, my salsa class, and still the smallest guy at the gym. Think I’m gonna quit?… FUCK NO! I’m in it till it’s over.

Alpha Ethos: “The Beta male is governed by his circumstances and outcome. Win,lose, fail or succeed the Alpha Male doesn’t let outcome change who he or what he wants.”