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My Phases of Game

Posted: July 20, 2011 in Game, Musings, Personal Experience

Since reading “The Game” I’ve been in Game/Pick-up for about a year now.  I don’t really count the first 4 months when I had heard of Game but never really got into it. I was fascinated to see my personal evolution and how learning Game has changed a lot of my life.

When I found Game I had zero luck with woman (still don’t have a lot). For the first 4 or so months I was absolutely obsessed Pick-Up. I laugh looking back, idolizing a guy wearing leather pants and a fuzzy hat. I can imagine how annoying I was talking game and I used too much PUA lingo. I think for most guys who first discover Pick-Up and truly apply it they notice a quick improvement. For a brand-new rookie you feel like you could be the next Casanova… you have no idea how far you have to go.

After about 1 month into Pick up I was exposed to Roissy, Roosh, and VK. I would consider their game a lot more practical and useful. Real guys, running real game on real girls. This is also the time when I finally learned to relent on all the Pick up talk (this is when your friends say, “Thank Fucking God”). But words like DHV and AMOG still pop up more then they should. This is the when you get your first glimpse that learning all of this stuff isn’t about just chicks… But you still don’t understand.

The Venturing phase is when after reading Roissy, Roosh and VK for awhile you begin to realize nobody is perfect at this. And then you begin to tinker around with Pick-Up and how you can bend it’s jedi like force to fit your style. You quit using PU lingo but you still think about game a lot. The Realization for lifestyle change is what happens when you realize there is more to life then just game. Sure you think* you have solid game but you don’t use it that often.  This is when you realize how much better your life could be. “Ok, so what if you get the dream girl, then what?” You still have a boring fucking life.

Self integration and Lifestyle building what comes next. It’s when you resolve to try a bunch of new things. Salsa, working out, martial arts, sports. Anything that catches your eye you’ll try. All of the sudden you begin a phase of bulding the best possible you in the short term things. Is is where I am now.

Is the next phase true Alpha-ness and Major Future planning? I hope so. But for now this young padiwan has far to go.

If anyone ever told you it would be easy, they lied…

A few weeks ago I to signed up for a volleyball tournament. I thought, “what the hell right. It’s just for fun.” so I signed up as an individual and would be set on a team with other individuals.

I should have known it was gonna be a rough day when Lady Gaga is playing at 9am. One of the risks signing up as an individual is when your put on a team with people who practice with the national team and people in the most competitive league(I’m in the least competitive).

To put it simply, I sucked. When I wasn’t serving the ball way into the next court I was usually missing my shots. My team won only one game through the tournament.

On my Volleyball team I play with on a regular I’m the worst guy player. The first week I wasn’t too bad, now a bunch of new guys joined and I’m back to the bottom.

If you took me from pre-Christmas I would have probably left that tournament and my team feeling super shitty and probably never played again. “Fuck this stupid game. I suck and was probably the worst player out there. Peace out!”

Not now. After starting Salsa dancing I learned something very important. “it’s gonna suck a long time. You have to push through the sucky part to get to the good part. “Most people quit right when things get hard and right before things get good.”
That’s what I was told before I started. And by the time I reached the end of my second set of classes I was the only student left in the class. Now I’m in a new class and I’m back to being the worst student in the place.

“90% of being good at anything is just showing up.” some are gifted but some nothing is special about them they’ve just worked harder then everyone else and stuck with it when everyone else didn’t.

What most people don’t realize is how important the mental shift is. I’m not really bothered by most people, or how they have big plans. I know 95% of people are too lazy or aren’t committed enough to follow through. Most are gonna quit and drop out.

I have friends who have great ideas that could be quite powerful and make them really happy in life. But unless they make big chances they’ll never go anywhere with those ideas. what a loss.

This change in thought also changes Game. Win, lose or fail what counts is you showed up and tried. Don’t make doing or trying something contingent on the outcome. If you want to do something just do it. It doesn’t matter what happens after that because you tried.

I may suck at getting chicks. I’ve have been stood up and flaked on by the last 15 girls I’ve asked out. But I can’t quit now. Roosh says it takes about 4 years of sucking at something and about 8 to 10 years before your good at something. I’m at the bottom of my sports team, my salsa class, and still the smallest guy at the gym. Think I’m gonna quit?… FUCK NO! I’m in it till it’s over.

Alpha Ethos: “The Beta male is governed by his circumstances and outcome. Win,lose, fail or succeed the Alpha Male doesn’t let outcome change who he or what he wants.”

The other day I went down to see my friend Scuba at his job. He works with a lot of tourist and it’s one of those places where fresh pussy flows in and out on a regular.

While I was waiting for him to finish work an untanned greasy fatty wattled into the shop and was asking a few questions. The kind of questions Scuba’s sun fried brain is perfect for. What shocked me is how this fat sea cow tried flirting!

I felt like turning and saying “bitch please, there aren’t any pitty fucks going on here!”

The summer is here and that means the fat cubicle farm animals of North America have been set free and have beached themselves on my beautiful island for their vacations. Bermudian woman maybe over valued but at least the fatties know their place.

 

 

 

We’ll all seen a perfect 10 and you desperately want to approach but either you’re too afraid or you’re convinced your game isn’t good enough. But what if your wrong, what if she never gets approached and desperate wants to be approached.

Doing the unrealistic is easier than doing the realistic,Tim Ferris, The 4-Hour Workweek

I was reminded of this when I was having coffee with K. Transposing what Tim Ferris on to game you get The Perfect 10 Paradox. And its so true. Most guys don’t think they can pull the 9 or 10 so they go for the 6 and 7s.

It’s lonely at the top. Ninety-nine percent of people in the world are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most time- and energy-consuming… The fishing is best where the fewest go, and the collective insecurity of the world makes it easy for people to hit home runs while everyone else is aiming for base hits. There is just less competition for bigger goals.” – Tim Ferris

Most guys don’t believe they deserve the best. So instead they’ll go for second best. An example would be a group of girls where one stands out from the rest. All of them are pretty and dressed well but one stands out from the others. I’ve been in a large group of friends and some of the girls will get approached then I’ll hear the prettiest one complain no guys will talk to her.

I even witness this paradox on facebook. Take for instance that kinda slutty, bigger girl with a cute/jizz on face, about a 6 or 7. On her pictures you have like 6 different guys commenting giving her way too much attention. Adversely the perfect 10 only has comments from her gal pals telling her how beautiful she looks. The 6 gets gamed way more than the perfect 10 girl. The 10 still gets gamed but not half as much as the 7.

Girls don’t dress up all sexy for no reason. They want you to notice. Most betas are scared shitless to approach her and if you can spit decent game then you’re already ahead of the competition. She’ll definitely shit test you but you’ll blow right through it.

So finally approach that girl who is out of your league. The whole league system is a myth anyway; start acting like it! We’ve all heard the beautiful girl complain how she never gets approach. Today my friend, you are going to approach her.

You deserve the best. Act like it.

Guess who got laid… Thats right. This guy!

Thursday night I took out my blind date for a second date. I took her on a little adventure going to several different venues. Dessert and drinks location #1: $30, drinks at location #2: $20, milkshake at location #3: $10, getting laid… PRICELESS.

As that I don’t have my own place I’m limited to where I could take her. So I drove us to what I thought would be a quiet destination. But as luck would have it a car drove by, and stopped. I dropped the condom I was about to tear open and I hopped out of the car with nothing but my pants on. Apparently we were about to romp on someones property. This is the second time I’ve been with a girl in my car and someone has pulled up; at least this time it wasn’t the police. So we moved to the darkest spot of her parent’s drive way.
By this time I was well-worn out from a long day and 3 destinations (not including some dude’s property). I could have done better… but I chose not to.

To no surprise sex complicates things. The problem is that if all goes as planned I’ll be going out with a friend of mine soon after she gets back (Knock on wood). Do I dump blink date now or do I keep her around to see what happens? My options in how I would dump her is even limited; I can’t let my friend who set us up get a shit storm from her.

Is Bad sex better than no sex at all?

On another note…
I was declined from my surefire university of choice. So right now I’m saying to myself “Oh shit.” Because unless I’m extremely lucky I’m going to be stuck for another year in the cubicle farm.
So what then? Do I spend another year slowly killing myself slowly for a four year tunnel dream? Then what? Rejoin the cubicle farm to pay off my golden years?

Right now, 1 hour after this saddest of news I’m thinking of moving. Start fresh somewhere else with $24,000. In my head moving to some surf-all-day country sounds really awesome but what would that look like in 20 years? To be quite honest I’m scared shitless.
I realize modern western world society has programmed us to believe university  is the end all and be all. But what better options are there?

Thinking About the Future

Posted: February 26, 2011 in Musings

The future belongs to those who prepare for it today – Malcolm X

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about planning for the future. What I want to do with my life and how I can be retired or a least semi-retired by 30.

I in roughly 4 to 5 weeks I will have saved up $1,500 for a travel fund. But as that time draws closer and closer I have less reason take a trip. By the end of April I’ll be out of school and able to travel. But all my friends will be backing making home the hot spot. Also South America will be into their winter.

A big part or me wants to forgo a trip and take that money to begin investing. Over the past few weeks I’ve been sitting down with an economics teacher discussion investment principles and various other financial principles. I’m in my early twenties and if I want to reach my goal of retiring any time soon I need to have started investing yesterday.

I’m also thinking about my career path. The other day I sat down and had an honest time with myself saying what I want and what I want to do. One thing that spilt on to the page was my desire to be a full-time writer and photographer. Ambitious, I know.

I’m not so much afraid about whether I can do it or not but what I am worried about is how lucrative it would be. I don’t want to work for the rest of my life but if I did something that I loved maybe I wouldn’t have to worry so much about retiring.

Another part of me worries about family support. I’ve read at lot of Tim Ferriss and other people talking about creating businesses that make money for you or doing a job you love. Journalism, writers, and photographers barely make enough to support themselves. If I want a family one day will I have to let go of what I love do and join the cubical farm? Only the most successful writers and photographers make enough to live large.

All a lot to think about. But as my econ teacher said “Take risks while your young.”