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A Surprise Appearance

Posted: July 14, 2011 in Alpha, Beta, Game, Personal Experience
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I was on my way to the first night of a class I signed up for and I come up the steps and who should be there… One of my past fucks.
Inside my head I’m saying, “Oh fuck. This is gonna be so goddamn awkward. Ughhhh.”
It was one of those moments when I realized why you never intentionally dick-over a girl you’ve fucked. Because if you live in a small country, you are going to see her again.

I was completely off my zen. I knew she took classes but it never clicked she would be in mine. And who was I pared with for the night? You guessed it, her. I hadn’t seen her since an awkward parting.

“Cause I just seem my ex girl standing with my next girl standing with the one that I’m fucking right now” – Drake

Now a few weeks later everything is cool. I keep my frame loose and aloof and she’s usually entertained by the beta dude in the class. Hell the guy number closed her.

The best part was when the teacher asked if we were a couple. After one class I tried asking her to join me for a drink which didn’t work out. But I have it on good information if I keep at it she’ll “open up” again. I’m not spitting good game on a regular so I feel I should get off my fat lazy ass and put a little work in.

Haha I feel bad for the class beta. The aloof indifferent guy is about to swoop in and remind him why nice guys finish last.

In the last class I was paired with this one girl who I knew I should be spitting game to. I didn’t really but I mixed things up a bit so we were closer and more touching was involved in what we were doing. Her eyes said yes… But my mind said no. Sigh* gonna have to make up for it next time with a number close.

Gaming two girls in the same class…Post class drinks at the bar?… I think so. I’m gonna have to play this like a Jedi.

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You’ve Been Warned.

 

 

 

 

I checked my inbox the other day with this message in it…
Just saw this movie and immediately thought of you during this scene (no offense). Here is I think the one of the best principles of game distilled into one sentence by Angelina Jolie. …
It’s a youtube video from The Tourist when Angelina Jolie and Johnny Depp first meet.

Depp: [Depp smoking a cigarette] I’m sorry.

Jolie: “Thats Some what disappointing”
Depp: [confused look] “Would you rather have me smoking for real?”
J: “I would rather you be a man who did exactly as he pleased”

If you’ve seen the movie/clip you can imagine I had about the same look on my face as Johnny Depp after being told I reminded someone of this scene. But it’s true, Angelina Jolie perfectly summarizes what every aspiring alpha male should do; exactly what he wants. It’s not to be selfish but instead to not be ashamed of who you are and what you do. Whatever you do, do it with confidence.

If your interest I’ve included the link below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cl3QBoN5aC8

 

I was feeling grouchy and upset about a situation with a girl which wasn’t going how I’d hoped. I’ve invested a significant amount of time on her and I’m ready for my pay off. So for the first time in over a month I had a BBM(blackberry messenger) status.

It was, super beta but I felt like my long commitment to Alphadom deserved a break. I deserved my turn to complain and moan about my sad situation.

But no beta deed goes unpunished. Within seconds, and I mean seconds I got a message from a girl I had once tried making something with. She’s a classic attention whore who won’t let you get away with anything Beta. Bring out your arsenal of negs because you’re gonna have to unload the whole clip.

All she said was: “That is the gayest status ever.” Ok, so she was right. But I was feeling pretty shitty and I was just starting my turn on the Beta-merry-go-round. I hadn’t even had time to enjoy it! So in classic beta fashion I erased my status and used it as a good excuse to delete her.

Looking back, both acts were something an Alpha would never even think of. The beta status was a revisit to my hyperactive status updating days. Deleting her was me being a bitch cause I couldn’t take the heat.

Being Alpha isn’t something I can put on in the morning and take off at night. It Must become you. It’s not a change in who you are, just drastic change in presentation. So like I said in the title, not beta act goes unpunished. Don’t make the same mistake I did.

Go Another Round

Posted: March 7, 2011 in Beta, Game, Personal Experience

Lately I feel like I’ve been throwing myself into the deep end of the pool. Or what sometimes feels like a shark pool. Throwing myself into situations knowing I’m in over my head hoping that if I push through this it will get easier. But when you’re learning a lot of new things: game, salsa, fitness training and being in college you start to feel like you need some time out. After my last major fail with the South American which K was in shock about. “So you were where? Did what? And still didn’t fuck her??? Even after everything you did, you still could have slept with her.” It was this point when I just about ready to head back to the familiar. Back to the late nights drinking booze, smoking and hanging out. Maybe it was time to quit rowing up-stream and fall back in to the safe and familiar.

So that’s what I did. I hung out with my friends on a Sunday night till 2:30 am. The next day 3 people told me I looked worn out and dead looking. K has been commenting how I’ve been looking healthier since cutting out a lot of the drinking, smoking and late nights out. So after seeing a drastic one day change I’ve decided to stick with things.

In just a week almost all my prospects have evaporated. One never came out when I invited her, one is engaged, and the South American chick…. well you know what happened. Now I could stand here and make it sound like I have zero opportunities but that wouldn’t be true. Some how the sea monster and her best friend (one is my friend’s ex) are both trying to hook up with me. I have to set the standard somewhere; One is a cum dumpster which you and several of your friends have all fucked(which I didn’t know till after I fucked her) and the other is a friend’s ex. Both are detestable sea monsters but when you’ve had 12 drinks, she’s interested, and you’re brand new to the game… Yeah, I made a bad call. Between a rock and a hard place. Lower your standards, close your eyes and pray to God; Or continue being stood up and disillusioned by failure.

But the upstream battle doesn’t end there! I was convinced by a friend that if I really want to get good at this salsa thing I need to come out to social events and learn outside of the studio. Being reassured there would be other rookies I figured, what the hell right? What he didn’t tell me is that there may be rookies, but they all sit on the side lines. So if I’m going to get good at social dancing I have no choice but to get out on to the dance floor, suck big time, and look like a total dumb ass. Apparently if I do that long enough I’ll get better.

Ding! Ding! Ding!
That’s the sound of the beginning of this round! Time to get back up and get back in the ring. I maybe a rookie beta, but I’m not giving up. In this for the long haul.

Recently I was introduced to a South American girl through a friend of mine. They later told me she basically just looking for a fuck buddy. Could it have been a perfect situation? Her own place, just wants to fuck, and South American. I was determined to win. My friend also commented that I had to quit being such a nice guy from when we met. My mind translated that to “Be an asshole”. Naturally because I wanted to win and I felt I was already behind.

Now there are two kinds failure. Big and small. Small failure is when two people just aren’t making chemistry. Big failure is almost being kicked out of a party at your friend’s house for being such a dick. Can you guess which I was?

If you guessed big fail you would be correct! The same friend invited me over to a game night he was having. I was given only short notice so I just through a pair of jeans and walked out. I was hoping this was a bunch of guys sitting around drinking beer, telling dirty jokes and having a good time. Nope, I was wrong. It was only after I arrived that I realized I was wearing whats been called my “old man sweater”. Even better was I couldn’t take it off because I was only wearing a V-neck undershirt. Self-confidence -5 points. Lone behold this South American girl was there too! I made conversation and really didn’t interact with her hoping to play “too cool for you” and when I did talk to her it was straight trash talk with a nuclear neg. If I had just left it there I could have probably done alright. But you see when I’m in asshole mode and start drinking I can’t switch. Whatever mood I’m in when I drink, whether it be quiet, loud, asshole, or fun mode that’s how I’ll stay for the rest of the night.

When I finally made it to her table to play I had already been a winner at mine so self-confidence +10 points. Asshole mode+winning streak confidence= amplification. So it only got worst. I would like to blame this on my naturally competitive nature but I don’t cop-out from mistakes.

At one point my friend even tried giving me a silent hand signal of “turn it down”. Too late, those 4 beers had me well set. I wasn’t drunk but booze just solidifies my mood. After winning the game night I believed myself to be king of all things. So when we decided to go to the club I went with enough dick headed confidence to last me a year. After her blurted out back at the house something to the effect of she was horny I believed I had her in the bag just like I had the game night. Eventually outside the club she cornered me, “Are we just gonna be friends or are you gonna try fucking me?” And she didn’t say it in a nice way. Like a deer in headlights I wasn’t ready for her to be so blunt. The best I could muster was “Wel lets wait and see.” This was not an acceptable answer for her. Realizing how badly I had botched the situation. I told her had to go to the bank for money. She came a long beating me with her verbal stick of how much of an asshole I was. Do I get a prize when she says it 20+ times?

Seeing the desperation of the situation and realizing I’m going to be seeing her a lot more often. I had to try saving at least a functional level of acquaintance. I did my best at 2:30am to build comfort. But the worst part is that I was so focused on creating the comfort and displaying vulnerability I didn’t capitalize on some of her comments. When she started talking about sex and fucking she even said “It’s a shame you aren’t leave.” As if I would make a good one night stand never to be seen again. The vaginal howler monkeys must have been desperate… or at least drunk.

When I saw my friend the next day and when it was just the two of us his first question was “So what did you learn from [south american girl].” We both agreed how bad I went over board. “If you weren’t my friend and I didn’t know what you were up to I would have probably kicked you out. I’ve done it before.” The shiver of shame. In attempts to rectify the situation I just fired her a short fb message apologizing for my behavior. apologizing isn’t beta when you really have been a dick.

I check my RSS feeds today and VK made a post that was spot on to what I needed to read. Goddamn you VK for not writing it a week earlier!

He’s really a nice guy but every time he goes out he makes it a point to be a dick head. He’s really smart but he goes out and tries to be funny all the time. He’s a natural introvert and every time he goes out he tries to be the center of attention all the time.

the highest level you don’t need to fit into a type, all you need to do is give off an interesting vibe and the girl will give you the chance needed to game her. That’s all a type is, just a foot in the door to game, the rest is up to you. Just be yourself

I’ve done everything I can to repair one situation, now time to take everything back to the drawing board. Review fundamental game methods consider new tactics. I may be tired of all this time in the drawing-room, reconsideration of methods and constant failure but I tell myself that if we work hard now push through all of this, one day we’ll start reaping rewards.

 

First things first, any rookie who writes a game blog I give props to. Posting your failures and triumphs on display to the world and risking your personal identity. I applaud you.

But there are trends I notice with rookies, betas, and beginner blogs compared to Alpha blogs. Now when I say rookie blogs I’m including myself.

We’re obsessed with running perfect game. I read other beginner blogs and  seems like we’re obsessed with quick acceleration and not natural flow. A healthy pace is good but if your moving too fast you’ll soon find yourself shut down. What I mean is that we’ve been taught in game to move things quickly and go for the bang as soon as possible but I’m noticing that a lot of the other rookie bloggers are getting shut down by girls. I believe it’s because we’re not calibrating to the situation. If a girl who’s interested in you shuts you down it’s probably because you didn’t lay enough ground work. You moved so quickly that it felt unnatural.

Another thing about natural flow is it feels more natural and it easier to integrate into your life. If one day you’re a nice guy and two months later you’re a full-blown asshole running hardcore game and going for the kiss close every time things may look s bit odd and unnatural. Make your chances slow and deliberate.

Think about it like a Point system. Positive moves (alpha behavior, DHV spikes and the rest) give you positive points. Beta and negative behavior has your points taken away. When you reach 500 points (or any number you chose) you go for the bang or kiss close. If she turns you down subtract 300 points. It’s a good way of making you constantly calibrate, encouraging natural flow while using your masculine desire to win at competition.

Another thing I notice in a lot of beginner blogs is often a one girl is the focus. We blog about single girl we’ve had interactions with. It’s like we don’t know how to spread ourselves between multiple woman. We put all our eggs into one basket. We may be able to get 5 girls interested but instead of investing equally in all 5, we’ll just go for the one we like best. The problem with this is if things don’t work out your back to square one and you never utilize the competition.

I’m pretty sure Roissy, VK, Tucker Max and Assanova are spread pretty thin with woman. You should be too!

The last problem I notice with my writing and other beginner blogs is something very fundamental. And that is beta writing style. Approval seeking writing, like we’re writing for a grade. Instead of just writing and saying “Fuck it. I don’t care what people think.” We embellish what really happened to please the readers. But I’m realizing my readers don’t want a beta boy coming to them with my latest field report asking for a grade, no. My readers want a man who isn’t afraid of failure and isn’t afraid to say whats on his mind.