A few months back I posted a question/ field report on his comment second. Well not only did i get some good advice but Roissy himself gave me advice!
The following is from his blog. Check it out here
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Matt writes:
So Friday night I met this girl who just moved back to my country and when we let we both laughed because we had heard about each other (I don’t know what she has heard about me).
We hung out for the rest of the night. She and I would flirt a bit and I would neg her and she would punch me on the arm or give me little IoI’s.
Then at the most random time during us talking she just saysHer: Oh by the way I’m not going to fuck you.
Me: (confused look) Well you’re not really my time anyway.And the conversation continues but she said it like three times that night.
She also gave me her business card.
I ended up sleeping over at her house with everyone from our group. But not with her.The next day my Wing tells me every guy pretty much loves her. Great i’m just another AFC.
Today I see her in the park and chat with her for a few minutes nothing special really.
I’ve added her on facebook and now I’m wondering how do I get together with her if I can only message or email her? (Her phone number on her card isn’t from my country)
Do I even still have a chance with her?
A girl punching your arm is the metaphorical subconscious blurt of a clit flick. She wants it. You have only to refrain from sabotaging yourself at that point. But also note that there is a risk you are dealing with a superflirt. I don’t have enough context from your description to gauge whether she is nothing but a cockteasing attention whore.
When a girl wants it badly, her anti-slut defense will kick in autonomically, often at the most inopportune or random times. The “I’m not going to fuck you” line is a classic slut tell. The mere verbalization of the thought is evidence she most certainly is thinking about fucking you.
There are probably a number of ways to handle the preemptive fuck denial (PFD), but one that almost never fails is stone cold disqualification.
HER: oh by the way, i’m not going to fuck you.
YOU: [no confused look] phew! that’s a relief.
If she repeats herself again the same night, you can up the psychological ante.
HER: no , really, i’m not going to fuck you.
YOU: my girlfriend will be relieved you aren’t going to jump my bones.
Finally, you can call her bluff.
HER: i’m not going to fuck you tonight.
YOU: you know, if i didn’t know any better, i’d think you were dying to fuck me. try not to make it so obvious.
Or, if you think her buying temp is high, you could try this:
HER: i’m not going to fuck you tonight.
YOU: no, but you will kiss me. [lean in and go for it]
Despite the above suggestions, I think if you are getting a lot of PFDs from a chick, it is either evidence that she is an incorrigible and crude flirt, or she has the emotional development of a Twilight obsessed teen girl who can’t handle the arousal inflaming her labia. You’ll have to judge the difference, because dealing with a superflirt is radically different than dealing with a girl who actually wants to fuck you.
Challenge level: 2 (brass ring. so close.)
Alpha level: 3 (you nearly connected with your alpha chakra, but let transcendence slip through your grasp in the park.)
Summary judgment: Since your quarry was either a taunting superflirt or a wet and wild emotionally stunted slut, you had your hands full trying to navigate this female landscape. Props for the meager effort.
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Damn good advice! So check out his blog!
